I let my gay friend take over my Tinder account…

It started as a joke about allowing my friend to set up a Tinder date for me, but then after giving it more thought… why not? Maybe I’m choosing the wrong men and someone else might have better judgment than I do. I put my life into the hands of my gay friend! My friend chose my pictures (I disagreed with his choices but I tried to stay open-minded) and he went on a swiping mission.


One hour later, my Tinder account exploded with matches. I was scared that this experiment was going to be a disaster but looking at all my new matches, I had to wonder, “Am I too picky?” My friend had found me more matches in that hour than I could ever find on my own. Should I be more open-minded?


My friend sent all my new matches the same message: “What’s up?” I usually craft a careful first message to test how witty the other person is, but he just jumped in with “what’s up”! It didn’t sound smart and it didn’t sound like me! I had to call him out on it. He told me I was being a control freak and that I needed to relax. It was hard, but he was right; I needed to stop butting in and let him take full control over my dating profile. After all, I agreed to do this.


My phone didn’t stop buzzing all day, and I was very curious, so I decided to take peek. I opened my Tinder to read the texts. My friend was messaging one guy in particular—someone who clearly hit the gym a lot and had a ton of shirtless pics on his profile to prove it. He wasn’t my usual type and I rolled eyes. My friend: “Do you have better pictures of your muscles?” Oh no, this was dating suicide, why did I agree to do this? All I could do was pray this guy wouldn’t blow up my phone with naked pictures. “Please, be a gentleman and have some standards!


My friend: “Are you a personal trainer? I love a strong man! I have a gay friend who is looking for a personal trainer. Would you be willing to help him?” Wait, was he looking for a match for me or a trainer for himself? I had to laugh about it, but I couldn’t stop thinkingplease, just please don’t set me up on a tinder date with this guy!

My friend continued to message similar shirtless men but told me that  I shouldn’t worried: he would pick the right guy for me. I wasn’t buying it. My profile looked like an advertisement for the hot guys of Tinder! But what about some substance? I needed an intellectual who could keep up a conversation, who would enjoy my company and want to explore the world… not some shallow connection! Did my friend even know what I was looking for?


Although it was hard, I decided not to interfere with this process. A week later, I was set up on a tinder date. I was dreading the moment one of those shirtless guys was going to walk through the door. But to my surprise, a very nice man showed up! We had a great conversation and a good laugh about the experience as I told him the whole story about who was behind my profile and this Tinder date. He was a good sport and was very open-minded!


Some of the choices surprised me, but he was right when he said that I needed to relax and trust him. There are a few things that I’ve learned through this experience: I am sometimes too selective and should be more open-minded when it comes to potential matches. I’m still sure that I don’t want any of the shirtless guys my friend seems to like, but I should be more willing to meet people instead of putting them through all sorts of tests first. I shouldn’t take myself too seriously, and most importantly, I should have some fun with the dating process.


P.S.: My apologies to all the men who blindly participated in this process. Our intentions were coming from a good place.



Copyright: Luvidya

Check our other stories and articles about dating

Tell us your story

Invalid Email

Sign up for free dating advice

Learn how to have meaningful connections in the dating world