What does it mean to love..
I met her almost 22 years ago and I talked to her once. I moved to California from Mexico and started my new life in the US. Last year, I found her on Facebook, I didn’t look for her but we had many friends in common so 3 years ago, I sent her a friend’s request. I was afraid to talk to her because I knew she was married. I was married too. I didn’t think much about that connection, just to connect with a friend from a past. She accepted it but neither of us started to chat but I started to become more aware of her via her posts and soon I noticed that she was not showing any pictures of her husband anymore. That same year I got divorced.
Out of the blue, she made a post on FB stating “ An invisible red thread connects those who are designed to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstances. The thread may stretch, tangle, but it will never break.“ I instantly knew that I wanted to get to know more. I was very nervous but I sent her message if she would accept a coffee date with me. She responded that it was nice invitation but we lived so far away from each other. I didn’t hesitate, I knew that I want to meet her again, I bought a ticket and flew to Mexico.
I was very nervous but surprisingly it felt like being with my best friend; we spent an amazing time together. I wanted to kiss her but she said NO to the first kiss. But deep down inside, I knew she wanted it. I wanted to show her that I did respect her but I felt that with time, things would progress. When I was leaving Mexico, she asked me for a goodbye kiss. And I told her that I love her and wanted to respect her wish for the kiss. In that moment, I knew we had something really special, and I was so happy that I made the effort to meet her.
We lived so far away and so we decided to profess our love for each other over the phone, and it was descriptive with a lot of emotions. I told her that I wanted to kiss her and that she was a very important person in my life. The kiss was very important to me, I had really high expectations but the reality was even better. The kiss was so natural and familiar, as we had been lovers for the past 22 years.
This story doesn’t have only the love plot; we both had to face the reality of long-distance love and deal with the other related issues. Then reality hit us when we started to discuss our lives together with 5 kids; suddenly the relationship started to feel hard and not manageable. We felt that it might not happen for us. We needed to make a decision – we either make an effort to make our love stronger or go separate ways. The winning point for me was when she expressed that she wanted to be with me for the rest of her life.
One year and counting, we are still together but we don’t know what the future will bring. We are learning how to overcome all the obstacles, and having a long distance relationship is no piece of cake. We both know that anything can occur in the future which can make the relationship break apart. I am hoping that she could move and live with me in California, but she has to make a lot of sacrifice with no guarantee that our relationship may work out. I know I have found the love of my life and I’m not going to give up on her.
Love means a lot to me, it doesn’t matter what the distance is or time, or the obstacles; as long as we know both know what we love each other. Love means investing and not quitting when things get harder; the key is to be supportive. With that thought, we have decided to move on and fight for our LOVE.