When do you know they are not invested in you? I have to admit, even as a dating coach, I made the same mistakes before and dated people that I shouldn’t have because the signs were there. Not making an excuse, but simply I wanted to feel loved. But today, I would love to share with you some hard lessons:
These are the most common signs that you should watch for:
Scheduling time always feels like hard work
They make a lot of excuses why you can’t see one another. Sometimes the excuses might seem legit, but the reality is if the person really wants you in their life, they will make time no matter what. It is simply a matter of preferences to make effort to see you at your convenience.
This also means that the person will always ask you to come to their place. The effort in seeing you will be very low. It might sound like a super exciting moment for you, but truly, you are just filling up space on their calendar. Scheduling time should be fun for both.
Have a talk about a committed relationship.
It’s been a while and you still didn’t talk about committed relationship? You might think that you are in a committed relationship but without clear communication, you are just guessing. Not everyone is on the same page as you are, that is, faithful and hoping for a long lasting relationship. Your expectations make you invest too early and ultimately cause a broken heart. Set the time with your partner and have a talk about what you want in relationship.
Won’t introduce you to their friends and family
There could be many reasons why they haven’t introduced you to their loved ones yet. But be perceptive. If they are not emotionally committed, the reason may be because they are not invested into the relationship. Find out the reason. Maybe they have introduced someone else. Look for signs and take a reality check.
Not invested in making future plans with you
You try to talk about a wonderful vacation or places to visit, but you are always turned down with excuses.
The emotional investment comes with expectations that one-day things will change and they will invest into the relationship as much as you do. Unfortunately, this is an illusion and it is time to open eyes. Not invested means that they won’t make you priority and won’t create future plans with you.
Find a partner that will invest in you.
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